Painful intercourse for women is not as rare as you may think.
Are you one of those women who experience painful intercourse or pain from any type of vaginal penetration? If you are, you are hardly alone.
A recent survey indicates that more than 20% of women in the United States experience painful intercourse and that number rises significantly in post-menopausal women.
As someone who experienced and endured painful sex for more than 20 years, this is an issue that is near and dear to my heart. It is also a core subject of my book, Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure and my women’s facebook group, Girl Friend Sex Talk
Typical symptoms from painful intercourse include:
The medical establishment calls pain during penetration Vaginismus, which is an involuntary contraction of the muscles around the vaginal opening. This causes the insertion of any object such as a finger or penis to be very painful.
Women who are post-menopausal can have dryness and with the change in hormones, the vaginal lining can become thin which can be the cause of discomfort.
There are also medical reasons that cause painful intercourse besides hormonal imbalances. The most common reason is an untreated vaginal infection which should be ruled out before treatment begins.
In over 90% of women, painful intercourse is caused by a combination of psychological factors resulting in a learned response that penetration equals pain.
Here's the good news. You don’t need to suffer anymore nor do you have to stop having sex altogether!
There are treatment regimens available that can and will help you learn how to relax and enjoy sex. But first, you have to understand what is causing painful intercourse for you.
Here are the most common causes of painful intercourse:
My treatment usually involves a combination of:
If you are in a partnership, I always encourage your partner to participate in some of the sessions as their support during the healing process and in carrying out the homework is critical. Typically clients begin to see some improvement after six or seven sessions, although everyone is on their own time table.
Please reach out to me if this article resonates with you and by all means share it will all your female friends. Intercourse for women doesn’t have to be painful.
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