Sleep vs Intimacy: What if they can’t co-exist?

Sleep vs Intimacy: What if they can’t co-exist?

I was recently challenged about the categorical statement that I made in an interview that king size beds ruin marriages....

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How To Avoid Painful Sex

How To Avoid Painful SexEvery sexual experience you have is meant to be great, it has to be something that both parties enjoy and if something is not feeling good or it’s painful you need to stop and do something else.  So if sex, especially penetration, is uncomfortable or painful for you, you must stop immediately and try other things.  I can’t emphasize this point enough.  Women have been conditioned to accept all sorts of  discomforts (including menstrual cramps) as part of our role in life. Which is definitely NOT good and you need to communicate every discomfort with your partner.   Why do you experience painful sex? Uncomfortable or painful intercourse will begin to send a signal to your vaginal muscles, to further contract, in order to protect you from more pain and discomfort. Eventually, your body will take this protective pattern on, making it impossible for you to relax and become aroused, and making sex even more painful. It becomes an obligation or service sex just to please your partner. Again, many married women have been conditioned to believe this is their role in life. Service sex is a huge libido killer especially if you’re not getting what you want, not feeling aroused, and just want to get it over with. Think about it this way.  The more you have to do something that you don’t enjoy, the less enjoyable it becomes, and the less likely you are going to want to do it in the future.  That is a built-in desire killer. Instead of having service sex or sex that is painful, consider all the ways in which you can experience the pleasure that does not involve penetration.  Or you can find ways to be more relaxed and arouse, and then have penetration sex but in the first signal of pain, you should stop so it won’t become a bad experience.  What can you do to avoid painful sex?You have a lot of options to avoid this pain but I will say that finding an environment where you can communicate and feel relaxed is the best way to stop feeling bad every time you have sex.  If you are in a hurry or everything happens super fast, you won’t be able to understand your...

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