Xanet Pailet is a San Francisco based sex and intimacy educator and coach, tantra teacher, sexological body worker, holistic pelvic care and trauma practitioner who has worked in the health care field for over 25 years.
She is the best selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure.
She works with individuals and couples using a variety of modalities to help them explore different paths of pleasure within the body, increase their libido, and helps to heal emotional and sexual wounds.
On the surface, I was living the perfect life….my own successful career as a corporate healthcare executive and Broadway producer, married to a successful attorney, two fabulous children, a beautiful home in New York City, and all the trappings that go along with it. But underneath the surface was a woman sexually shut down from carrying years of sexual trauma in her body who was living in a sexless marriage for more than 15 years. Orgasms were so not in my vocabulary. I put 100% of my energy into my kids and my career. By age 45, I had pretty much decided that I was done with sex.
My sexual awakening occurred when I turned 50. Several loving men lit fires underneath me and one fanned the flames by introducing me to Tantra and sacred sexuality. Finally I was able to experience sex as a union of the physical, energetic, and spiritual body and reveled in the notion of not having a goal and simply enjoying the experience. Sexual healing was not far behind. This awakening was so profound that it completely changed the course of my life. I moved across the country to live in a more sex positive city and study sexuality with renown Tantra and sex educators. I have dedicated the rest of my professional life to helping others awaken and explore their own sexuality and to heal the wounds that keep us from experiencing our true sexual selves.
THE ROAD TO BECOMING A SEX COACH
As someone who really values formal education, I have taken many types of training programs to become a sex and intimacy coach. I feel that the more skills and tools that I have in my tool belt the better I can serve my clients. Of course, life experience is also extremely important and I feel that I’ve had my share of experiences around sexuality, sexual wounding, and sexual awakening.