We all know the adage, ‘Sex Sells’. So why is it so hard to talk about?
My mission with Power of Pleasure, this sex advice blog, and the sex education I provide as a sex and intimacy educator and coach is to normalize the conversation around sex because WE CAN talk about sex, even if the media says we can’t.
Let’s stop consuming sex from every angle, but living a weird paradigm of contradictory messages. Don’t believe me? Go check out a Zumba class, listen to the sexy music that we dance to, watch how we gyrate our hips, pump our pelvis, and shimmy our breasts.
Even in a work-out class, we are constantly being barraged by sex and sexual images. That is why we don’t feel the need to have a serious conversation about sex, we are socialized not to!
For example, we lower our voices when we talk about sex, we giggle like 10-year-olds, we even refrain from discussing it at a dinner party. So really… how to communicate with a partner about sex is never truly talked about!
This blog is about breaking that mold, so let’s dive right in!
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Unlike earlier generations, many of us have had ‘the safe sex’ conversation with our kids. But how many parents have really taught their children about sexual preferences, positions, ways to give and receive pleasure, orgasmic potential, female ejaculation, BDSM?
Learning about sex has become a taboo subject, so much so, that even as adults talking to our doctors is hard!
I’ve been shocked at how many conscious, alternative health care practitioners (chiropractors, acupuncturists, nutritionists, energy workers, massage therapists) never bring up sexual issues with their clients and feel completely unequipped to talk about sex.
Urologists are some of the worst offenders. They prescribe Viagra at the drop of a hat to men who clearly don’t have erectile dysfunction since they can get an erection when masturbating. So much easier to send them home with a drug instead of teaching them how to communicate sexually in a relationship or how to initiate a conversation about sexual difficulties they may be having with their partner.
Even many therapists have trouble talking about sex. Therapists are great talking about intimacy and relationships but very few are actually comfortable having conversations about specific sexual issues such as inability to orgasm and premature ejaculation. Most do not teach men and women how to please each other sexually. And even fewer can help their clients access and increase their sexual energy with very specific exercises and hands-on bodywork.
It is no surprise then that talking about sex in intimate relationships is also very challenging, particularly since we have had so little practice and have been socialized away from having those conversations. But being able to communicate about sex is fundamental to having the relationship that you desire and getting your needs met.
Believe it or not, I am not the only person on this planet writing a blogs about sex, and so without further ado, this week’s sex advice blog will introduce you to some other awesome sex educators whose sex advice podcasts you should definitely check out.
Emily Morse is an author, Doctor of Human Sexuality, and host of the Sex with Emily podcast and Sirius XM radio show. She is brilliant and the content she puts out answering people’s sex questions along with interviewing prominent women of our time on how best to achieve fulfillment and happiness is second to none!
Dan Savage is an author, a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a pundit, and a public speaker. He has been influential in the LGBTQ space, you can find him on major TV shows, but I want to point you towards his podcast. He has two different types of podcast, micro, and Magnum (yes that is an innuendo). The content is call-in style and absolutely worth the $5 a month! The Magnum version is commercial free and also includes interviews with authors and other experts.
The one and only Ester Perel, one of the most respected sex therapists in the world, has a great podcast which is also available to audible members for free. Ester invites you to “Step into my office to listen in on one-time-only therapy sessions with real couples navigating the complexities of modern relationships.” What a great way to find the answers you are looking for, and some you weren’t looking for! She centers all her advice on making sure you have quality relationships so you can have a quality life! I love it!
Tristan Taormino an award-winning author, columnist, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. The Sex Outloud Podcast is just that, providing amazing content that informs, shapes and changes the way I (and I think you) look at life! The content maintains that lighthearted, inspirational feel that keeps pulling me back in for more.
I love these two women! Amy Baldwin, a sex and relationship coach who I trained with and April Lambert, a well respected executive in the adult toy industry. Together, Amy and April combined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. From Pussy Praising to How to Be A Badass in the Bedroom, Amy and April are not afraid to tell it like it is.
What other sex advice podcasts to you like other than the ones I listed? Please leave your comments below!
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