Let’s Talk About the Conversations No One Wants to Have

Let’s be honest—hard conversations in relationships can feel like walking into a fire barefoot.

You know the ones I’m talking about…

The conversations about sex

Or not having sex.

About feeling hurt, misunderstood, or not fully seen.
About resentment that’s been simmering under the surface.

About getting married or not getting married.

Most of us were never taught how to have hard conversations in relationships. We’re afraid we’ll say the wrong thing, make it worse, or open a can of worms we can’t put the lid back on.

And here’s the truth: even I still struggle sometimes.

Yep. The intimacy coach is taking a class and getting coaching on how to have hard conversations—with her partner.

Daren and I signed up for a course together, not because something’s wrong, but because we’re committed to growing together. Because even with all the tools I’ve spent years teaching, I still find myself avoiding, shutting down, or going into fix-it mode.

And you know what?  Our relationship is the strongest it’s ever been even as we have more and more of those hard conversations.

The deeper truth? Vulnerability is scary.
It’s much easier to point fingers or stay quiet than it is to say, “I’m scared. I’m hurt. I need something different.”

But real intimacy doesn’t happen without vulnerability.
That’s the opening. The messy, uncomfortable, courageous portal that takes us from surface-level relating to deep, soul-tingling connection.

When we allow ourselves to be seen in our rawest form, we create a space where true understanding and empathy can flourish. It’s in these moments of openness that partners can truly connect, shedding the facades and defenses that often hinder genuine closeness. By embracing vulnerability, we not only foster deeper bonds but also pave the way for healing and growth within the relationship.

So if you’ve been avoiding hard conversations in relationships, I want you to know—you’re not alone.
It doesn’t mean your relationship is broken. It means you’re human.

And the only way we grow—together—is by leaning in.
Even when it’s awkward. Even when it’s uncomfortable. Especially then.