To truly experience deep, orgasmic pleasure, you need to be fully embodied. But what, exactly, does that mean? I’m going to dive into the meaning and importance of embodiment and then I will share some resources to help you deepen your personal embodiment (which will make your intimate relationships so much more fulfilling!).
“Embodiment” is a term that is tossed around frequently nowadays, without many people actually understanding its meaning. I define embodiment as “an experiential awareness of the feelings and sensations within our body or the reality that we ‘live in our skin.’”
Embodiment- feeling and experiencing the present moment from inside the physical body rather than just “inside one’s head”- is an absolute necessity for fulfilling relationships. You must be able to connect with yourself- who you really are inside, how you feel, what you think- before you can deeply connect with someone else.
If you spend too much time “in your head” during sex, not only do you have much less chance of having an orgasm, but you also will miss out on experiencing so much pleasure during intimacy!
If you are so focused on giving your partner pleasure, or worried that you look fat, or wondering if you are “doing it right,” you will not be able to experience not only the pleasure of sex, but also the physiological benefits of it as well, like all the feel-good chemicals your brain releases when you are enjoying sex.
But for many of us, getting out of our heads- a place that feels safe and in-control- and actually being present inside our bodies can be a massive challenge. Where do you even start?
A full embodiment practice takes time, and should be something you also pursue outside of the bedroom. My free fourteen-day Body Awakening Adventure (found over at www.myawakebody.com) can give you some great tips for how to live a more embodied life.
But what about a few quick tips that you can use when you are in the midst of an intimate experience? Here are a few things you can try:
Try these tips the next time you are intimate with your partner, and, if you want to dive deeper into an embodiment practice, head over to www.myawakebody.com and sign up for the free Body Awakening Adventure.
Sex & Intimacy Coach, Best Selling Author and Your Guide To Healing Yourself With Sex, Awakening Your Pleasure and Living An Orgasmic Life