Understanding attraction is complex and multi-faceted. It’s something that many people struggle with, both in and outside of relationships. It happens on a variety of different levels--physical, emotional, and intellectual and there are no “one size fits” all recipes. One day you may be attracted to someone and the next day that feeling may be gone. Sometimes we can get it back and sometimes we can’t. If it’s never been there at all, (you’re best friends but were never physically attracted to each other) and end up together, it can doom your relationship.
I had the opportunity to explore attraction at a recent workshop I attended. We were asked to walk around the room and notice the people we were physically attracted to and ask them if they wanted to have sex, knowing this was not going to happen. It was pretty easy for me to identify the people I was attracted to. I noticed that I do this all the time. I’m constantly scanning a room, using my intuition and my energy to “see” who I’m drawn to.
I know that for many of us 2016 has been an extraordinary challenging year. For me personally I saw the loss of Harbin Hot Springs, my spiritual center, my teacher and mentor Steve Carter, and the breakup of a very meaningful personal relationship. I also supported a dear friend through a series of extraordinarily challenging circumstances that many of us would not have survived.
On top of all of this, I witnessed, like you all did, the people of this country choose a racist, misogynist, xenophobic, real estate mogul TV reality star to be the leader of the free world over the most qualified candidate to ever run for President.
I am angry and scared, and have been having dreams of Nazi Germany and angry white men in pick up trucks randomly shooting women, gays, Blacks. Mexicans, and Muslims as they drive through the streets of our towns and cities. I fear for our earth, and our water, and our children and grandchildren.
Indeed, I have spent the last two weeks supporting many of my female clients who have been experiencing trauma and triggering of their PTSD because of this election.
Sex & Intimacy Coach, Best Selling Author and Your Guide To Healing Yourself With Sex, Awakening Your Pleasure and Living An Orgasmic Life