Healthy emotional boundaries and healthy boundaries in a marriage or any relationship are critical to being fulfilled.
Unfortunately, many women, and especially abuse survivors, have had their boundaries crossed multiple times and thus have a hard time maintaining healthy boundaries.
I spent New Year’s weekend at 1440 Multiversity, a wonderful new state of the art retreat center in the Santa Cruz, CA area. I spent hours in the Infinity hot tub that over looked the redwoods and had so many healthy, delicious, meals that it was hard for me to enjoy cooking my own food when I returned home.
Maybe because it was New Year’s weekend, there was a proliferation of single women in their fifties at the retreat. Women who were long time divorced, widowed as well as those newly single who came to a spiritual retreat center for rest and renewal. I called all my single male friends and told them it would be worth their while to register for a weekend retreat because the women were amazing!
But the strangest thing kept happening to me. A woman would sit down next to me for a meal, we’d start some small talk, and the next thing I knew she was hysterically crying and railing against men. I was pretty anonymous there but I felt like I had a sign that said “The Intimacy Coach is In”!
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