I spent New Year’s weekend at 1440 Multiversity, a wonderful new state of the art retreat center in the Santa Cruz, CA area. I spent hours in the Infinity hot tub that over looked the redwoods and had so many healthy, delicious, meals that it was hard for me to enjoy cooking my own food when I returned home.
Maybe because it was New Year’s weekend, there was a proliferation of single women in their fifties at the retreat. Women who were long time divorced, widowed as well as those newly single who came to a spiritual retreat center for rest and renewal. I called all my single male friends and told them it would be worth their while to register for a weekend retreat because the women were amazing!
But the strangest thing kept happening to me. A woman would sit down next to me for a meal, we’d start some small talk, and the next thing I knew she was hysterically crying and railing against men. I was pretty anonymous there but I felt like I had a sign that said “The Intimacy Coach is In”!
Valentine’s Day shopping tends to be so… predictable. Chocolates, roses, fancy dinner… it’s always the same-old, same-old.
Maybe this is the year that you try something a little bit different. Here are a few of our favorite gifts for couples that don’t involve velvet-covered heart-shaped boxes or waiting over an hour to get after you ordered to get your meal.
A Candlelight Dinner With a Massage Afterwards
You know what they say… “couples that cook together, stay together.” Ok, maybe that’s not true, but it is true that couples that cook together, eat together!
There are several fun cookbooks that are all about combining food and pleasure.
One of our favorites is called Lust Have Recipes: Aphrodisiac Cookbook: Ingredients for Stimulation.
It features over 55 sexy recipes that feature the most sensual of foods.
And while you are eating, why don’t you burn one of these fancy candles? It will enhance the mood, and, as an added bonus, you can safely use the wax as a massage oil after you eat! Do the dishes in the morning, and skip straight on to backrubs. And something tells me that, since it is Valentine’s Day, your message will come with a happy ending!