There is a bit of a myth that only women experience body shame. Nothing can be further from the truth. The Guardian recently published an article, “Me and My Penis: 100 Men Reveal All”, an interview with Laura Dodsworth, author of “Manhood”, a new book about men and sexuality. The author photographed 100 men’s penises and then talked to them about body image issues and sexuality.
It’s a fascinating article and I’m anxious to read the book, which will be published in September. What surprised her most? “A lot more men feel a sense of shame or anxiety about their size, or an aspect of their performance, than I would have thought. What really moved me is how much that shame and inadequacy had bled into different parts of their life.” She said many were teased as children about their penis and never recovered from it.
As a sex and intimacy coach, this does not surprise me in the least. I’ve shared information about average penis size and what women think about penis size. Internet pornography definitely causes lots of body shame. Men compare their absolutely normal size penis to the girth and length of porn stars. Porn stars penis' are digitally enhanced or injected with drugs to increase their erection.