Last year I wrote a blog post about becoming an intimacy scientist. It was my Research & Development approach to intimacy that occurred over a one week period at a Tantra workshop.
A year later I realize that this was merely a scientific experiment, performed and completed in a laboratory, but it was not the real thing when it comes to facing our fears around intimacy.
The Madonna Whore complex shows up so frequently in my sex coaching practice that I thought a blog addressing it would be in order.
What is a Madonna Whore complex?
Coined by no other than Sigmund Freud, the Madonna Whore complex is the belief, that women are categorized by men as either good girl Madonnas, pure, innocent, virginal, or bad girl Whores, sexually expressed, indiscriminate and aggressive. Men tend to want to marry and have kids with the Madonna but are sexually attracted to the Whore.
Freud believes that this dichotomy shows up most frequently in men whose mothers were detached, cold, absent or emotionally abusive. Some become women lovers who cherish and worship women, putting them up on a pedestal, hoping to receive the acknowledgment and love that they didn't get from their mother. Typically these men get involved with narcissistic, demanding, and dysfunctional women who crave attention but are undeserving and ungrateful.
Guess what ... we finally have some real scientific data on average penis size. Yesterday the British Journal of Urology published a study in which they aggregated data from 17 previously published academic papers that included measurements (as opposed to self reporting) from more than 15,000 men. Drum roll please...
Penis Size Stats:
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