Understanding attraction is complex and multi-faceted. It’s something that many people struggle with, both in and outside of relationships. It happens on a variety of different levels--physical, emotional, and intellectual and there are no “one size fits” all recipes. One day you may be attracted to someone and the next day that feeling may be gone. Sometimes we can get it back and sometimes we can’t. If it’s never been there at all, (you’re best friends but were never physically attracted to each other) and end up together, it can doom your relationship.
I had the opportunity to explore attraction at a recent workshop I attended. We were asked to walk around the room and notice the people we were physically attracted to and ask them if they wanted to have sex, knowing this was not going to happen. It was pretty easy for me to identify the people I was attracted to. I noticed that I do this all the time. I’m constantly scanning a room, using my intuition and my energy to “see” who I’m drawn to.