I spent New Year’s weekend at 1440 Multiversity, a wonderful new state of the art retreat center in the Santa Cruz, CA area. I spent hours in the Infinity hot tub that over looked the redwoods and had so many healthy, delicious, meals that it was hard for me to enjoy cooking my own food when I returned home.
Maybe because it was New Year’s weekend, there was a proliferation of single women in their fifties at the retreat. Women who were long time divorced, widowed as well as those newly single who came to a spiritual retreat center for rest and renewal. I called all my single male friends and told them it would be worth their while to register for a weekend retreat because the women were amazing!
But the strangest thing kept happening to me. A woman would sit down next to me for a meal, we’d start some small talk, and the next thing I knew she was hysterically crying and railing against men. I was pretty anonymous there but I felt like I had a sign that said “The Intimacy Coach is In”!
Being single doesn’t have to mean being miserable on Valentine’s Day! You can actually do some really enjoyable things if you are partner-less on Valentines (and they don’t all involve sobbing into a container of ice cream while watching The Notebook)!
Do Something Nice For You
If there isn’t someone buying you roses or chocolate, there is nothing that says that you can’t buy some for yourself! The trick here is to spoil yourself from a place of self-love and not self-pity. Here are some of my favorite little indulgences:
Valentine’s Day shopping tends to be so… predictable. Chocolates, roses, fancy dinner… it’s always the same-old, same-old.
Maybe this is the year that you try something a little bit different. Here are a few of our favorite gifts for couples that don’t involve velvet-covered heart-shaped boxes or waiting over an hour to get after you ordered to get your meal.
A Candlelight Dinner With a Massage Afterwards
You know what they say… “couples that cook together, stay together.” Ok, maybe that’s not true, but it is true that couples that cook together, eat together!
There are several fun cookbooks that are all about combining food and pleasure.
One of our favorites is called Lust Have Recipes: Aphrodisiac Cookbook: Ingredients for Stimulation.
It features over 55 sexy recipes that feature the most sensual of foods.
And while you are eating, why don’t you burn one of these fancy candles? It will enhance the mood, and, as an added bonus, you can safely use the wax as a massage oil after you eat! Do the dishes in the morning, and skip straight on to backrubs. And something tells me that, since it is Valentine’s Day, your message will come with a happy ending!
Sex & Intimacy Coach, Best Selling Author and Your Guide To Healing Yourself With Sex, Awakening Your Pleasure and Living An Orgasmic Life