Happy New Year! We've made it to 2017, a year that will no doubt go down in history. Let's also make history with your sex life and resolve that in 2017 you will banish boredom from your sex life and have one of the sexiest years of your life!
Let’s face it. Sex, like any other activity we do, can quickly get routine and boring. And nothing kills your sex life and libido faster than boring sex. It’s one of the most common complaints that I hear from my clients.
Here are five sure fire ways to take the boredom out of your sex life!
Have a Sensual Feast
There’s a lot of sensuality in food, especially foods that are juicy, creamy, and can be eaten with your fingers. Plan a sensual feast in which you explore all of the ways in which sensual food can enter your mouth without using any utensils.
Possibilities include feeding your partner and eating food off each others' body parts. Remember the famous “Sushi Scene” in Sex and the City where Samantha was splayed out naked with sushi covering her entire body?. Just be sure to put down some protective cloths or sheets. Better yet do it on the kitchen table!
Have Sex in Unusual and Different Places
Always have sex on the bed? Variety is the spice of life. Try the floor, the living room couch, the shower, the balcony, the kitchen counter. Car sex can be really hot especially when you pull over on the side of the road in the middle of a drive.
Sex in the woods, the gardens, by a creek, during a rainstorm (in warm weather), under the moon, on an airplane. Some of the best sex I ever had was on a yoga swing hammock suspended from the ceiling. The possibilities really are endless!
Explore Dominance and Submission
While this can sound really scary and intense, it does not need to be that way. We're not talking here about whips and chains, unless that's your flavor. Light dominance with consent, always with consent, can be very effective in creating a lot of charge in the room.
Some easy ways to explore this is by blindfolding and light restraints on your partner's hands. A scarf or men's tie works really well for this. Soft, sensual, teasing touch heightens sensation.
For an added boost, touch your partner with a feather or other soft furry object. Take turns exploring who is dominant and who is submissive. You might be pleasantly surprised by what you discover about yourself.
Learn Tantric Body Massage
One of the things I love about Tantra is the focus on using your whole body, as well as your breath, sound and movement to connect with your partner. Tantra massage helps to awaken the entire body using all five of our senses.
While genital massage can definitely be part of a Tantra massage, it is not the exclusive focus. In a full body Tantra massage, the giver uses their entire coconut oiled naked body to massage their partner.
It's one of my very favorite ways to pleasure my lover because it also feels very arousing for me. If you want to learn more about Tantra Massage, check out courses at Ecstatic Living Institute.
Go to a Sex Club or Sex Party
Most major cities have a variety of different sex clubs. If you're not near one, look for swinger parties which are usually called "lifestyle events".
The great thing about these events is that you don't have to do anything. You can literally just go, hang out, watch what goes on, and socialize with people. You will learn a lot just from being a "fly on the wall".
In most parties, "voyeurs" are welcome. After all you're probably not going to participate in a sex party unless you like being watched. Every group has its rules to keep everyone safe. Often you must go with a buddy and typically single women, but not single men, are allowed to attend.
If you don't love these ideas to take the boredom out of your sex life, then go be creative and come up with some of your own! No more excuses in 2017 to have boring sex!
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This challenge will help you blast calories, but more importantly, it helps you bust through any mental blocks holding you back from getting the body you desire! Join her now...It's free!
And for my wonderful men..check this out.
On Saturday January 28th, I am offering a Master Lover Practice Day for any man who has attended the one day or weekend Master Lover Workshop or who has been a private client of mine or any other Somatica practitioner. You'll have the opportunity to sharpen your skills and get support on anything that's been challenging to you. Early bird pricing in effect... Click here for more info and to register.
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